Think about
Make a list of your best and worst experiences. Think about what these
situations brought you, where did they move you, what kind of experience you
gained through them, what you learned, what beautiful feelings you experienced?
Which of those would you like to live through again? Which would you rather
never experience at all?
Explanation
Time: I would like to remind you in this lesson that everything is temporary.
What you were not able to accomplish today, you can accomplish tomorrow. What
you have achieved and closed today, tomorrow could spill again. Is it too
pessimistic? No, it would be folly to think that nothing is important, and that
it´s not worth trying. Exactly the opposite. These facts just unie us our
hands.
And how?
If everything is temporary, we don´t have to worry about what will happen, because
it can still change.
If everything is temporary, we don´t have to worry about the bad feelings
that can overtake us now. Those feelings will go away, so why should we let
them influence us and our good mood. It is not worth it.
Temporality helps us to feel free and not attached to the past. These are
things that were and are no longer. Maybe they left in us a few scars, but
what's the use. We can´t change it. But we can change “now” and start to slowly
change how we feel now. For if we are not satisfied with our condition, we may
decide that we will change it right now. It means that nothing more than the
present moment we can not count with. Of course we have, and we are going to
have obligations in the future. For example we have to take care of our family
or even pay the rent next month. It is clear. But if we should look into that
past. By now you have been able to secure your family somehow and always pay
the rent, isn´t it? And so it will be next month. Or maybe better? It depends
on you and how you set it up and what emotional attitude are you going to take.
The main objective of this book is to teach you how to think positively here
and now, and still, whatever your circumstances are, if more positive or more
negative. So don´t worry, you are going to make it. You're not alone. Now just
ponder about the effect of temporariness. To demonstrate it to you in the best
way please get up and go to take some family photo album. If you do not have a
family, take any photograph with people you know. Open your album and scroll
through your photos. Some of those pictures will probably evoke in you positive
memories, others maybe the negative ones. And now give yourself this question:
How much now depends on where you are living in that time? What were you
wearing? How furnished was your house or apartment? Does it depend today on what
kind of work you were doing? Does it depend on with whom you were living? The
only thing those images will remind you about is how you felt in that time.
JUST THE FEELING
That's strange, huh? Actually, the last thing what we ask about today has
the greatest value in our life. Every day we are far more concerned about how
our circumstances look like and who are the people around us. We do care about
these things much more than about how we feel. The aim is that you choose your
circumstances, people and things in such a way that with them and through them
you are going to feel better. Do you do it? Slowly we are going to try and
learn this.
DEATH
Death helps us to realize that in the life actually there is nothing to
lose. As our circumstances may change from day to day thanks to the fact that
everything is temporary, so the factor of death goes even further. Tomorrow, we
may not be here. That is a fact. For some, this may sound too sad, but it would
be pity to view the death from the negative side. Rather, let´s choose the
positive view. Death actually frees us. Everything we socalled "have
to", we actually “don´t have to”. If we weren´t here tomorrow, nothing
would have happened. Our place would be taken by someone else. The fact that we
think we "should do" some things to please the others, to meet their
expectations towards us, those things we also don´t have to do. Why should we
even do it? If you knew that within a week you are going to die, would you try
to please your partner or meet the expectations of your parents? Or would you
give up on their expectations and live the way you would like to live? Probably
the latter, isn´t it? And why don´t you live that way today?which you are going
to remember from those images and what
What would you gain? How would you feel if you were suddenly free and able
to live according to your wish? Wouldn´t it be better? Often we forget it
because we live in a certain stereotypes and we have adopted a lot of things
from the society in which we live and from other people. That's all good. We need
some patterns, order, rules, and some rhythm. But don´t let them bind you. All
this should help us to ease our decision making so we can concentrate on what
we enjoy most and what we do best. It shouldn´t bind us. Well luckily there is
still the death that always reminds us what we actually need to follow in life.
Follow your heart and listen to your intuition. Once, in one ad, I think it was
Sprite was the message: Follow your instincts. They couldn´t say anything more
true. Just follow your instincts. Neither the society nor the parents or
girlfriend or boyfriend knows what is best for you. They can only think,
because they love you and have some idea about you and how you should live. But
only and only you yourself know it exactly. Only you know what you want and how
you want to feel while doing that. And according to that you should make
decisions in life. Other opinions and recommendations take as advice.
Intellectually think about them and choose and follow only those that serve the
fulfillment of your plans. And forget the rest. Death helps us to don´t be
attached to anything, to don´t depend on the way we look in front of others or
their claims on our lives. Due to the death, we know that we only have to do
what we consider best for ourselves. Death reminds us that in fact we don´t
have that much time, in order to deal with something else than what we love.
List of tasks
Temporality helps us to overcome bad moments, because thanks to it we know
that our situation is constantly changing and will change again. It helps us to
stay always positive, because only that good feeling, only this thing we are
going to remember. And that´s why we live, to enjoy every moment. Death frees
us and enables us to focus only on what we consider important for ourselves.
What do you consider as the best and really important for your life? What job
would you be doing if you weren´t constrained by anything and anyone? How would
you behave and how would you act?